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Important Starzyia News!

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wild river dusk

wild river dusk

Yes, the end of the year really got away from me there… the truth is I have been working hard on my independent website which is now officially open, and will now host my blog. That’s right, this should be the very last post I publish here, and from now on I would love it very much if you would visit me at starzyia.com because you will need to add the blog there to your reader if you want to stay in touch with symbolic gift guides, grief healing, and what is going on in my world. You can also subscribe there to get email notification of new blog posts if that is what you prefer. The first new blog post is a ripper, about how to give meaningful gifts from the heart, you can read it here

I’m thrilled to announce there is also a central Starzyia shop on the site which has served its first customers, and that for the month of January you can save 15% with the code: weparty15 (unless you are on my mailing list and then you should use your secret code to get 20% off all month). I also put up a number of bonus earring sets for my first customers, 4 of which still remain at this present moment – meaning the next 4 customers will have a pair each added to their parcel.

The site is secure, easy to use, and I hope you will find it filled with eye candy and everything you can hope to find.

I’d love to thank you for your support here and I hope this isn’t goodbye as I’m fond of you all.

And Happy New Year! may 2014 be an amazingly good year for you and your families.

finding the right Starzyia jewelry for your gift recipient has never been easier

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Earth Mother gift guide

for the Earth Mother archetype

In preparation for holiday shoppers, I created a little catalogue for my business Starzyia, to help handmade shoppers find the right jewelry to suit their gift recipients, I hope you find it helpful and inspiring! Everything is handmade and will be lovingly wrapped and sent around the world from my home in Australia. My holiday shipping deadlines for 2013 (for pre Christmas delivery) are 1st December for orders outside of Australia, and December 17th for Australian domestic orders. You can find my jewelry in store at etsy and madeit

The Earth Mother featured items are all available in my etsy store, except Tree of Life With White Duck (madeit) and Running Hare Brooch with Epidote (madeit)

The Woodland Wanderer collection is created to enchant the woodland enthusiast in your life – she loves to stroll through the woods, loves the wild birds and animals, and the designs are available in the Starzyia etsy store

romantic cottage chic gift guide

for the romantic cottage dweller

This collection is handmade especially for the romantic cottage dweller – she lives in, or would love to live in a shabby chic cottage with a floral garden – these designs are available in the Starzyia etsy and madeit stores, with new designs added as often as possible.

romantic fench inspired jewelry

romantic French pendants by Starzyia

Does her heart skip a little beat for anything French? Well I have some beautiful, unique, French inspired jewelry so you can tell her how you feel in French! I have French jewelry sections in both my etsy and madeit stores.

beach jewelry gift guide

jewelry for beach lovers

If she is a real free spirited beach lover, then how about some nautical jewelry to treasure always? The jewelry featured above is from my etsy store, and as it will soon be Summer in Australia, I’m bound to add a few more interesting designs to celebrate!

I am thinking about designing my first range of beatnik jewelry, and I have lots of other styles already available in store, I honestly have something for every woman in your world, if she is your friend, your sister, your mother, your girlfriend, your wife, your daughter, your grandmother, your boss, your teacher, your co-worker, she is someone who matters to me too as I have all these wonderful people in my life and they inspire me to create every piece.

 

 

 

 

 

My Favourite Handmade… a look at the goodies that landed in my shopping cart

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night light bySAGEdesign

little girl night light bySAGEdesign

I’ve been fortunate enough to have acquired some very fine handmade items in recent weeks, and so I thought I’d share a look at some of my absolute favourites.

You might remember I featured Kylie Findlay the artist responsible for the gorgeous offerings at bySAGEdesign here on the blog in May and you can see above the nightlight I bought featuring her beautiful design of a little girl at play. Each side of the nightlight has its own special scene, and the lid easily lifts off to operate the light which takes three batteries making it safe and highly portable – I like that I can place the light on any shelf or position in my home and there are no electrical cords in sight. More of Kylie’s work can be seen (or purchased) here: www.bysagedesign.com

another view of my nightlight bySAGEdesign

another view of my nightlight bySAGEdesign

'dream' inspiration decor by Studio Astratta

‘dream’ inspiration decor by Studio Astratta

At the start of this year I began a very slow process of making over my studio/office space which recently received an exciting boost thanks to Belinda Davison of Studio Astratta who held a giveaway of her inspirational word decor ‘dream’ for her newsletter subscribers – quite fortunately I was the excited winner. As soon as I knew I had won I knew where the word had to be placed – right above my whiteboard, where you can see I already had the section marked ‘Dreams’ which is a short list of goals I want to achieve with my business Starzyia this year. You can see Belinda’s gorgeous work in her madeit store and I recommend visiting her facebook page and signing up for the newsletter (maybe you will win one of her future giveaways!) I will also be featuring Belinda here on the blog in August.

eyewear purse handmade by Eleven Roosters

eyewear purse handmade by Eleven Roosters

For my Mum’s birthday – last week on July 4th – I chose a really beautiful eyewear purse designed and handmade in Australia by Tanja of Eleven Roosters. Mum is absolutely loving it and I will definitely be returning to the Eleven Roosters store on madeit to purchase one for me (when I’m good first and save a bit of money for Fizzy’s vet fund)

Mum's eyewear purse on our illustrated copy of The Secret Garden

Mum’s eyewear purse on our illustrated copy of The Secret Garden

And last but definitely not least, I finally got to try some of my etsy friend, Kaz’s handmade soap when she had her Super Soapy Sale on facebook. Kaz, who operates New Earth Soaps makes heavenly scented all natural soaps that take care of you body and soul. LOVE my soaps!!!!

some of my soaps created by New Earth Soaps

some of my soaps created by New Earth Soaps

Since I’m now needing to ‘take a rest’ from shopping for myself (and my family) I am keeping busy pinning fabulous handmade finds on pinterest. I pin personally here and on behalf of DUST (Down Under Street Team on etsy) here and I’d love to see you there.

Don’t forget you can let me know what kind of handmade things you’d like to see featured here on the Starzyia blog, I might even create a special gift guide just for you!

featured handmade seller: Holly from Zuri

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Another special day for me, I always enjoy introducing the wonderful creative souls who bless this world with their handmade goodies, and today I’d love you to meet Holly of Zuri, here she is in her own words…

Holly is the creative talent responsible for Zuri

Holly is the creative talent responsible for Zuri

Introduction:

Hi I’m Holly, creator behind the accessory and jewellery atelier, Zuri. I was born in Oxford in 1981, yet my folk’s emigrated from the UK to Australia in November 1981 so I’m Aussie bred! I’m now long married to an Australian Air Force man and we have 2 children, our 6 year old son and a 3 year old devil, ahem daughter! We move on average every 5 years and are now in Canberra where ‘husband’ studies full time Electrical Engineering. Our first winter here is…interesting! It’s a very beautiful place and we are so excited to be living here!

handmade by Zuri

handmade by Zuri

Where did your creative journey begin?

I’ve always been artistically inclined which I inherited from my mum and discarded mathematics as early as I could to fill my school days with art and drama. (The irony that I am now married to a mathematical genius!)

Once my daughter was born in 2009, my eyes were opened to the wonderful world of little girl’s accessories and I discovered quite quickly I could create my designs to suit my own tastes, which are very particular! I started with button hair ties with unusual fabrics, untypical of children’s fabric. I also made accessories for friends and received so many compliments that I decided to ‘found’ my little business in March 2012.

I’m highly inspired by beautiful, gifted photography. I like to think I also have a fairly good eye for it! I find inspiration in all things natural, especially isolated West Australian beaches :sigh:  how I love the ocean. I’m a big outdoors person, exploring, 4WDriving, camping and picnic bbq’s. Our family loves cooking delicious food and we all hold great importance in fitness.

Individually, I really enjoy eclectic fabric designs, Moroccan, Metallic’s, Mohave, Aztec, all things ‘peacock’, neon’s and particular patterns suitable for the buttons I use to make hair ties. I then lead onto button earrings as my fabric collection ideally appealed to a higher demographic. Rings, necklaces then clay as it’s so fun to use, the outcome is stunning and there are endless designs to create out if it.

button hair tie by Zuri

button hair tie by Zuri

What has been your biggest obstacle in your creative life?

Because of our transient lifestyle I’d found it hard to adjust from job to job and decided it best to stay-at-home and raise our children, focusing on attempting to keep them settled in anticipation of moving or times when my husband is away. In our recent move from West to East, my business was put on hold for 5 months whilst we camped across the country and then lived in a hotel till our new home was ready. I was slow to start up but I’m in full swing now! I’m always eager to make new designs out of new mediums so the future for Zuri is always exciting! Sometimes I have so many ideas my wallet cannot possibly fund them all, I’m certain we all feel this way at some point in our lives! My newest challenge comes in the form of a bread and butter job, my first in 7 years! I vow to always find time to create and inspire!

jewellery by Zuri

jewellery by Zuri

What dreams to you have for the future of your creative business?

I’m edging towards 18 months with Zuri and my next big goal is to do a market but I confess I’m procrastinating! My goal is to get one under my belt by Christmas! We shall see J

You can support Holly and Zuri here:

www.facebook.com/ZuriAtelier

www.madeit.com.au/Zuri

Thanks so much Holly for adding your gorgeous work and insights into your creative life to the Starzyia blog, and thanks to my readers who are still visiting previous featured seller posts and getting to know the wonderful guests and their work.

one more beautiful pic from Zuri!

one more beautiful pic from Zuri!

featured handmade seller interview: Kylie Findlay from bySAGEdesign

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Hi, time for me to introduce another wonderful handmade artisan – this time its someone I have been online store ogling for a couple of years so I’m extra excited – Kylie from SAGEdesign a talented designer and creator based in Australia. I find Kylie’s work is beautifully detailed, yet at the same time captures simple pleasurable moments to create and keep happiness with you always.
bird lights by bySAGEdesign

bird lights by bySAGEdesign

Introduction:
My name is Kylie Findlay and I design and make decorative homewares products for bySAGEdesign.
Where did your creative journey begin?
When I was born I think! I have always enjoyed being creative in varying degrees – as a child, in school and as an adult. There have been significant points in the journey though and going to uni to study Visual Art a few years ago was one of them as it became the starting point for bySAGEdesign.
girl on a swing

girl on a swing

What kind of things excite and inspire you?
I get very excited by other people’s artwork.
I am also inspired by life and memory… people and our connections with each other and other living things. Interaction, emotion, expression, love, hope and human refection in nature.
I am drawn to simple design and things that look pretty. I am one of those people that judges a book by the cover and chooses a bottle of wine because I like the label!
earring tree bySAGEdesign

earring tree bySAGEdesign

What is the most difficult creative challenge you’ve faced, and how did you overcome it? (or are you currently tackling it?)
I think being creative and making artwork is all about overcoming challenges. So there are constant challenges! One challenge I am faced with in my business is limited time. It takes time to create work… time to experiment, to reflect, to absorb… it is hard for me in business to allow myself this kind of time without feeling frustrated that I am wasting time. I am constantly reminding myself that this is a necessary part of my creative process.
little boy nightlight

little boy nightlight

What dreams do you have for the future of your creative business?
Wow… what dreams don’t I have ha ha!? I have lots! I guess the basic one is to continue to create, grow and evolve, be inspired and hopefully also to inspire others.
Find more about bySAGEdesign here…. and Kylie has generously offered 15% off coupon code: STARRY (valid until the end of July 2013)
Thank you Kylie, it has been a pleasure “meeting” you after being a fan of your work for so long, I wish you every happiness and success on your creative journey!
ornament bySAGEdesign

ornament bySAGEdesign

Happy Mother’s Day weekend

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the wisdom of Mothers

the wisdom of Mothers

I know its a day early, so I’m calling this Mother’s Day weekend – hey, let’s just spread the love a bit further! I’d like to wish all my supporters who are mothers a happy day, and the mothers of all my supporters a happy day too. This year a record number of mothers will be receiving Starzyia jewelry (yay!) and a record number of them are fellow Australians (which is very encouraging to me) thank you everyone!

speaking words of wisdom while eating macarons

speaking words of wisdom while eating macarons

I’ll be offering my mum a lovely afternoon tea, a heartfelt chat, and bless her she’ll want me to paint her nails for her (I think she only gets them done once a year on Mother’s Day so its kind of a tradition) and maybe an old movie. Then we send the pleb out to get dinner (that’s Dad for the uninitiated)

Happy Mother’s day to all families everywhere, and special wishes to those who are missing their angel Mum’s.

 

Featured Seller: David Wright from Bare Hands Personalised Jewellery

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It’s time to meet another very talented and fascinating member of the handmade community, this time I’m introducing you to David Wright of Bare Hands Personalised Jewellery, so I hope you enjoy this feature and show David and his wife some wonderful support.
David of Bare Hands Personalised Jewellery

David of Bare Hands Personalised Jewellery

I’ll let David introduce himself in his own words:
Hello, we are Bare Hands Personalised Jewellery from the northern suburbs of Perth and are a  husband (mostly) and wife (sometimes), fairly new,  small business,  making items of jewellery from Fine Silver (99.9 %), mostly personalised – which can mean names stamping / messages, finger foot and hand prints  but more recently exploring more non-personalised ways to be creative with the silver making process. Yes you may think it odd for a male to be messing about in a studio getting in touch with his creative and some might say ( and have ) feminine side – but hey ho – its good for the soul! I also am a professional tiler and work 7 shifts a fortnight with guys with autism. In my spare time (what’s that ?) I spend time with my two lovely boys and enjoying playing saxophone.
Where did your creative journey begin?
I got the idea of taking this particular path from my sister in the UK who runs a similar, quite successful company ‘Lucy Locketts’ and originally thought of setting up a franchise of that, over here in WA. After thinking about it and googling for a teacher or course, we found someone very local offering the exact thing we were looking for, did it and never looked back – which was just as well remembering back to  some of the first items that we made! We’re also exploring the possibility of glass beading and have booked a course – silver and glass can look great together.
a sample of David's wares

a sample of David’s wares

What inspires and excites you?
Hmm I’m a true believer that there is a greater intelligence at work constantly, and if we allow ourselves to trust in it, then inspiration and  creativity can flow freely without the need for too much thought – I certainly know this to be true with music. I like to let the customer provide inspiration for their own piece as obviously every customised item is different – its certainly exiting when it comes together and you get good feedback from the customer.
handprint jewellery

handprint jewellery

hand stamped jewellery

hand stamped jewellery

 

What is the biggest creative challenge you have faced and how did you overcome it (or are you currently tackling it?)

Pricing is a constant challenge, a battle of getting a balance between affordable and competitive yet making it worthwhile, please tell me I’m not alone here! (No David, not alone, I can hear the sighs of empathy rolling in from readers across the globe) Sometimes I just think ‘sod it’, its worth $X and I’m not selling it for any less. When people see a price sometimes, the natural reaction is ‘HOW MUCH!?’ but any small business owner would be able to give you a list as long as their arm about hidden expenses / time and not to mention for us , the price of silver. Sometimes I feel like explaining the whole process that goes into, for example, our miniaturised hand and footprints, stamped onto silver. I’m sure some people think we have a little elf that we summon whenever needed, to give us a quick dance and place his hand and feet into the silver for us.  At a market once, I was explaining that we not only offered fingerprint jewellery but hand and footprints too and pointed to a pendant I had made with our sons prints on, to which she replied in all seriousness  ‘Nah, their hands aren’t that small’

personalised fingerprint jewellery

personalised fingerprint jewellery

 

What dreams do you have for the future of your creative business?
I’d love for what we offer to grow to the point where our products become somewhat of a ‘brand name’  even if it’s just locally – just like people talk about other brands to us when sharing our excitement in what we’re doing. I think the key might be to be unique, remain true to yourself, have faith and anything is possible – you just have to create it. My sister and I remember a quote that goes something like ‘some people look at a rock and see a rock .. others see a cathedral’
personalised jewellery is a great way to show your love

personalised jewellery is a great way to show your love

How to connect with Bare Hands Personalised Jewellery and David:
Although I’ve only been on Etsy a few months, it looks like a great medium for being amongst like minded sellers and we also have a facebook page www.facebook.com/barehandspersonalisedjewellery – which has a back catalogue of items we have made in the past.  One awkward aspect of making everything to order is that you never have anything for display purposes as it goes out as soon as you’ve made it. You may notice the same names cropping up on some of our items – names of very patient family members who see pictures of something that they’d love to be wearing, but never actually receive!
I’d like to thank you David for being willing to be featured and sharing the beginnings of a very exciting journey into handmade, and wish you every happiness for the future.

The Top 10 Things that have contributed to my insanity

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The Maniac's Portrait

portrait of a maniacal woman aka, me

You can either: pay no attention to the self-indulgent ramblings of a self-confessed mad woman, or you can go right ahead and find out what brought me to this point. Curious?

1. The insane way that my father had of handling my insane need to have a pet dog: There has never been a child more hysterically desperate for a pet dog than me. The closest I got was a bright blue tinsel haired stuffed toy with googly eyes, that I used to mess around with in the car and try to make the people in the other cars think was a real, living, dog. When we went out as a family, if I saw a dog, I was a crying, begging, somewhat delusional freak who made a massive fuss about how “the dog has no family! it’s starving! it has nowhere to go! we have to SAVE IT!!!!”. In reality the dog would have a collar on and its owners would be like 50 feet away – and probably casting worried looks my way and saying things like “quick Marge put the dog in the car and let’s get out of here!”. Interestingly, and I only put this together recently, My dad used to always, and I mean always hum or whistle the exact same song for years, and years without relief. The song was: How Much Is That Doggie In The Window? Say what? Was he an evil genius? Because that is torture my friend! So Dad, thanks for always feeding my feverish desire for a dog without ever providing one. Great job!

2. Rhett Halse and Beethoven’s 5th: In the fifth grade, I went to school with a boy (quite obviously) named Rhett. My only memory of Rhett is that for the duration of that year, he sat near me, and incessantly hummed Beethoven’s 5th, but not all of it, just the part he knew. The part that everyone knows. Da-Da-Da-Dahhhhh, Da-Da-Da-Dahhhhh! This he did, over and over. Not just in the comedically strategic places that modern television producer’s would insert it for effect: like the announcement of extra homework, or someone being sent to the principal’s office, he just did it all the time. At first I just sort of had this need to hum the next part, so maybe he could move on. Then I started to get a little bit gaga. Then by the end of the year the desperation to finish the symphony was making my head explode. So Rhett, you are indelibly linked with Beethoven’s 5th and that way, shall never be forgotten.

3. My highschool principal Mr Patterson: Going to school every day during Mr Patterson’s tenure was like being stalked in the corridors of the Death Star by the horrifying sound of Darth Vader’s deep breathing. I found it especially intimidating to have him stand behind me in class, lean down and speak into my ear “can you tell me what you’re doing?” (at the moment I’m pissing myself was not the appropriate answer) and when it was in maths class, I most certainly could not tell him, since I honestly did not know. He also exercised amazing mind control over the student body. School assemblies were no longer a simple file in, take a seat, kind of affair. There was a tremendous amount of training involved so that we, as a collective, responded to his commands “prepare to sit” (tortuous pause) “sit” and “prepare to rise” (tortuous pause) “rise”. Mr Patterson also thought of himself as an innovative kind of principal, as evidenced by his compulsory class named Thinking Lessons. I always wondered if the board of education took that as a declaration that in all our other classes we did no thinking of any kind.

4. The loss of a major food group and consumer innocence for all time: Having survived highschool (perhaps aided by the replacement of Mr Patterson as a principal) I went on to university where I lived from measly pay check to pay check and dwelt only in the realm of shared housing. One day I was enjoying a humble lunch of instant noodles when my housemate, Michael, came home and declared himself “starving” while eying the steaming bowl of leftovers I had on the counter. Since Michael often cooked dinner for me (real dinner with actual vegetables and nutritional content) I offered him the extra bowl. However, Michael was very particular and always read every single label in the entire grocery store before ever buying anything. Ever. So I continued eating my delicious noodles and he started to silently read the empty noodle packet. “What’s RNA?” he asked. “What?” I asked, while spitting my mouthful of noodles back into my bowl, I did not like where this was going. “What’s RNA?” he repeated while I sprang into action, snatching the packet out of his well-mannered little hand. “F*ck me there’s RNA in my noodles!” I screamed at him. He looked on helplessly (obviously his long days of label reading hadn’t taught him everything) so I explained that RNA works hand in hand with DNA and is a genetic type thing that I don’t want to be eating. Gross! I was on that day robbed of one of the five major food groups the student can afford to eat: tinned beans, instant noodles, potato chips, complimentary nuts in bars, and fish sticks (which I already did not eat, being vegetarian at the time), and am now also a paranoid reader of labels.

nuts, yes I am

nuts? yes, thank you, I am

5. The British Royal Family: Let me be clear, these people drive me positively wild but not with delight! I think that it is completely humiliating in this day and age that people still buy into the concept of royalty. Do you know that by my birth as an Australian I am automatically one of their subjects and worse than this a commoner? And they don’t mean common, as in, there are a few of them, and millions of us… they mean inferior common. They mean that and prove that daily by the myriad of ridiculous rules of how we are allowed to communicate with and approach them. How precious can you get? Do you realize it was a major scandal when a senior member of the British media, an icon, and respected journalist, announced the death of the Queen Mother while not wearing a neck tie! For God’s sake!

6. People saying “guns don’t kill people, people kill people”: Yes, where am I losing you? People invented guns, that is what makes me so suspicious of guns. People didn’t invent guns to go shoot clay pigeons. They invented guns to kill and maim more quickly and efficiently. They wanted to get better at warfare. They later found other things that guns might help out with – humanely destroying injured animals and such. But they didn’t invent guns for that reason. They invented them to kill humans. Yes they did.

7. A cockroach ran up the inside of my trouser leg on a crowded inner city bus: and all I wanted to do was rip those trousers off, scream and shout and shake them all about. I have never gotten over the horror.

8. The suspicion that the internet was invented by nerds as the greatest act of revenge in the world, ever: Think about it. Nerds invented the internet. Nerds got rich off it. Regular folks have never been more frustrated with their computers ever before; the usage of the internet has robbed companies of time and productivity that may never be able to be accurately measured; pornography has never been more easy to access; the internet allows us to spend vast amounts of money more rapidly than any other method including gambling because that is now also a major part of the online lifestyle; and we go crazy when the internet goes down, even for a few minutes, and when anything goes wrong, who do we call, the nerds – so they have never been more needed in their lives.

9. The perpetual neediness of facebook: The fact that every time I select ‘log out’ of facebook, the panic box comes up and says ‘you are not logged in, log in to continue’. Chill out facebook! don’t be such a Needy Nelly.

10. The suspicion that Where’s Wally and Freddy Krueger are the same person: I have a side by side picture, but I don’t want to get sued. But they both wear stripey jumpers, hats, and pants and I wouldn’t go to sleep now if I were you, Bahahaha!!!!!

 

The Time is Now – I learned that the hard way!

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every seed knows its time

every seed knows its time

Life can be so demanding, its not always easy to take a moment to do something for ourselves, and many of us wish we could do more for our families and friends and can’t even entertain the thought of doing whatever it is we fantasize about doing with this mythical ‘spare time’ that might arrive sometime on the horizon but is yet nowhere in sight. Unfortunately, and I’ve learned this the hard way, the universe doesn’t hand out spare time just because we deserve it and have had a rough trot and need to slow down and relax for our own health and happiness. The time is now. The time is now, because we are not guaranteed a later. Sad but true. And even if we are unreasonably certain that we “aren’t going anywhere yet” we can’t be reasonably certain that our problems, demands, and stressors will be going away anytime soon either. I was in that trap.

When I came back to my hometown and shortly after joined facebook – I had the chance to reconnect with many old friends. I dearly needed this contact with my long lost friends because, well, all my current friends were not living in my hometown – so I was going to a place where initially I would have limited social contact outside of my immediate family. And I worked from home (so no built in work mates to meet and greet after hours) zero social life was my lot in life. Especially since, and get this – I was single (so no partner to go to work and come home with a load of mates to introduce me to and be absorbed by defacto into a social circle) – and looking after my two senior citizen parents through some very rough years of code blues, fractured hips, heart valve replacements, and cancer. I had the chance to reconnect and I postponed. I said to my friends, it will be easier for me to make dates with you ‘when this is over’.

When what? When THIS is OVER. When my father was no longer awaiting a much needed heart valve replacement (number two for him) and that sucked up a year of my life. Then mum needed surgery. Then when I was ready to hand over some of the cooking and cleaning duties to her, she gets Ross River Virus… oh the joy! Then I started my etsy business…. and no wonder I did not do well that first year, I was not disciplined about learning how to run a small business, take better photographs of my work, do my own successful online marketing, build a social network and following, improve my designs, and improve my product photography (I’ve said that twice because it was so important!). I sold 3 items on etsy that first year. Because I thought, that I could be more disciplined and dedicated after THIS is OVER. When 9 weeks of commuting to another city to see my father in traction and then later recovering from a code blue, and then after that a hip replacement and rehabilitation. When that ‘settled down’ I would go out for coffee, get my hair done, and make that overdue appointment at the dentist. After the 9 weeks passed and Dad was home, and I was starting to have to do ever so slightly less in the cooking and cleaning department, my mum confessed that she had a problem she had to see the doctor about and hadn’t mentioned it until the very same set of circumstances was OVER. Mum had noticed blood in her – um, stools? (funny word for it… sorry I’ve tried this with a number of equally horrid terms) and then we found out that she had CANCER. So you know, after that, I would go to the movies, get my hair done, and maybe finish writing my novel.

And guess what Mum was completely treated successfully for the cancer through surgery alone. Yay! But then has needed a lot of follow up, has developed IBS and food sensitivities, and has also had her thyroid removed, is awaiting surgey on her eyelids, will  need surgery for cataract and oh yes, now I remember, Dad has two hernias in his left groin that will need to be surgically corrected too. Since I have not been to the movies since the release of The Pursuit of Happyness, and I went an entire year without getting my hair cut not once, but two years in a row, I am not postponing my personal needs any more. I will go out to coffee now, because there is no end in sight. I have been getting my hair done every two months this past year, and I might even break the cinema drought and go see a flick. Because I was arrogant to think that the demands on my time would dry up and that I’d be gifted with a period of free and easy living.

The sun doesn’t ask the seed if it feels like growing now, the sun shines, the seed either responds or it does not. It doesn’t get a rain check.

And if you can relate to this in any way, I hope you’ll tell me, so I know I’m not alone!